An early influence in my life was a book entitled, The Last Hurrah, by Edwin O’Connor. It was written in 1956. It became a best seller and later a movie starring Spencer Tracy. The plot focuses on the last campaign of a long-time Democrat Irish Catholic mayor of a large, unnamed East Coast city. It includes all the trappings of old-time machine politics. The Mayor (many called him “Governor”), Frank Skeffington, was portrayed as a flawed character with many redeeming qualities and an impressive list of accomplishments. Skeffington was defeated in his last election. He was portrayed as sort of the last of a dying breed of politician. The book, at least in my mind, proffered an optimistic impression of the modern political system. This was quite influential in my early desire to pursue a career in politics. Little did I know how far from the mark this author was when it came to “modern” politics! Still, I was intrigued with the idea of participating in politics and even considered the idea of serving as a mayor (or even higher!).
I’ve met at least nine mayors of Saint Paul, Minnesota and of those, I got to know four quite well. I met John Daubney (1952-1954) as a fellow lawyer and fellow Army Veteran. He was a humble guy and very likable. I only much later learned that he had been mayor of Saint Paul. Charlie McCarty (1970-1972) was the father to one of my school classmates. I met him briefly on several occasions. Jim Scheibel (1990-1994) was a fellow runner. We spoke (not about politics) at several running events in the Twin Cities. I had a fair amount of contact with Norm Coleman (1994-2002) through political campaigns and several other city events, but he probably wouldn’t know me. Similarly, I met Randy Kelly (2002-2006) when he spoke at a St. Paul Rotary Club meeting the year I was Club President. This story is about the other four.
George Latimer (1976-1990) was the first Saint Paul Mayor I felt I knew reasonably well. He was quite popular, but I suspect had little ambition for higher office, even though he did run for Governor once. He was just a nice guy who wanted to do good in the world. George is such a positive and inspirational person who was what I’d describe as an incredibly public mayor. He lived not far away from us and was always visible in the community. I went to school with one of his kids, so he was a fixture at school events and the like. George had a great sense of humor and seemed to enjoy making fun of himself, sometime to his detriment. Though I never believed George had a drinking problem, some of his skeptics suggested otherwise.
One story may have been a political hit job, but I thought it was funny when I heard it. I vaguely recall it reported in the St. Paul Pioneer Press/Dispatch. It was a story of when George had attended a Minnesota North Stars hockey game in Bloomington (or maybe it was shopping a mall, or both!). It had snowed during the game. After the game, George was unable to find his car in the massive lot. He talked to the police on site. They searched, but couldn’t find George’s car. They reported it as stolen and got him a lift home. Later in that Spring, the car appeared under melting snow. It had been mistaken for a plowed snow pile. This, of course, led to rumbling from his opponents.
My favorite interaction with George was in about 1976-1977. George, and other influencers from St. Luke’s parish, had participated in a fundraising event for the parish school. A culminating event for the fundraiser was a boozy “open house” at our Summit Avenue mansion. The house was teeming with people all evening and George was still around as things were winding down. George had enjoyed a few cocktails and someone suggested that perhaps George shouldn’t drive home. Since I’d just received my driver’s license, my dad suggested that I drive the Mayor home. As a new driver, I was excited the opportunity. He lived just over a mile away, so it would be an easy walk/run home. The Mayor quickly agreed. We had a nice chat on the way to his house. I pulled into a parking spot just a few feet from his front door. I shut off the car and handed him the keys. Then George turned to me and said, “Okay, now I’ll drive YOU home!” We when back and forth on this a few times before I finally convinced the Mayor that his best course of action was to just head into his house. I waited until he was safely in before heading off for home.
I haven’t seen George in years, but I remember him fondly for his fun-loving spirit. He was much of an old-time politician in that he was able to cross the aisle, both professionally and personally. He knew my dad was a staunch conservative, but that didn’t stop him from interacting. In fact, one of the reasons George was one of the last to leave the St. Luke’s Open House was because he, my dad, and others, were engaged in intimate – and controversial – political topics. He listened to opposing opinions and did not ever belittle the thinking behind them. Rather, he treated each individual with utmost dignity. Through that, I learned the value of treating others with respect and moderating opinions, especially in a mixed political crowd.
Lawrence (Larry) D. Cohen (1972-1976) was George Latimer’s immediate predecessor as Mayor. I was young and really don’t recall much about his time as Mayor. I met Larry much later during his time as a Judge of the Ramsey County District Court. I was in law school and was a Bailiff-Law Clerk, which was a position that provided a backup bench of law students for Judges when their primary law clerk was absent. I worked with Judge Cohen a couple of times and we really hit it off. We shared a sense of humor that was often absent from the formal courtroom setting. Before long, Judge Cohen specifically asked for me whenever his law clerk was out.
One fall, Judge Cohen’s primary clerk was out over an extended period for maternity leave. He asked if I would fill in – and I was ecstatic! This was a great opportunity for me. Like with George Latimer, Judge Cohen knew I leaned conservative, but he didn’t care. In all court matters, he trusted me implicitly, even in opinions that were politically controversial. Even though I was essentially a temp, Judge Cohen gave me much more authority than most law clerks enjoyed in dealing directly with lawyers. As a law student, this was a great learning experience and I really started to learn how the court system worked in practice.
My favorite take-away from working with Judge Cohen had to be the humor he brought to almost every situation. By today’s standards, we may have strayed beyond some lines, but Judge Cohen was always respectful and caring of others. I have tried to follow Judge Cohen’s example by finding the humor in everyday situations and the idea that we can and should bring humor to the workplace.
Chris Coleman (2006-2018) was a classmate in grade school, high school, and college. We generally hung around in different circles, but saw each other regularly. We had a fairly large chasm in our political views and I always felt that politics was always an underlying issue between us. Despite that, we shared a common bond and we’ve always remained respectful of each other. Chris got a head start in law school due to my Army commitment, but I recall catching up with him while I was at William Mitchell Law School. We had various encounters around the courthouse while I was in private practice in Saint Paul. I lived outside of Minnesota during the entirety of his extended service as Mayor, but as I do with so many of my fellow Cretin High School alumni, I proudly kept track of my former classmate.
Like the other Mayors I knew, I never found Chris as one to make personal judgments around political beliefs. We may have disagreed on issues, but that was separate from the common experiences that brought us together. I’ve always thought of Chris as wicked smart; he had a high dose of common sense; and he always got along well with others. Unsurprising, given these qualities, Chris was a highly popular Mayor in Saint Paul. I knew from an early age that Chris was interested in following his father into local politics. His example encouraged me to seek lofty goals and to go for it.
Inez Santos Grayson is the wildcard of this bunch. She was my paternal grandmother, but she wasn’t actually a mayor in Saint Paul. She was, though, in various circles, called “the Mayor of St. Paul,” likely due to her outgoing and strong personality, bridge prowess, and overall Southern charm. All I knew was that when I was growing up, she seemed to know everyone in Saint Paul – and everyone knew her. Grandma probably deserves a blog post of her own, if only for her great influence in my life.
Grandma Grayson was one of the strongest-willed people I’ve ever known. She lived to 98 or 99. We’re not exactly sure how old since the Beaufort Court House burned down when she was a child. There is no doubt in my mind that she could have been Mayor if she had set her mind to it. She was fiercely proud of her family and her broad heritage: Catholic, Irish, Spanish, and Southern. She was a storyteller extraordinaire who had a penchant for exaggeration. Hmm, I wonder where I got that from? Grandma’s mother was Kathryn O’Carroll (Irish immigrant) and her father was Anton (Ontón) Santos (Basque Spanish).
We visited Grandma’s childhood home in Beaufort, South Carolina and she shared how the long staircase into the foyer brought memories of her father descending every morning. She said she’d never seen her father without a suit coat on. That was so hard for us kids to understand. I guess it was just a different era. Grandma always claimed her father was a Spanish sea captain. I later read a story that suggested he was a Spaniard found nearly dead in the South Carolina lowland marshes after being tossed ashore by shipmates. No matter the story, my great grandfather had a long career as chief harbormaster for Charleston, South Carolina, so he truly was a sea captain.
A similar story ensued about my great grandmother’s family. My grandmother talked about the Irish Aristocrat family that her mother’s father (my great-great grandfather?) had fled due to an “unworthy” crush. Many years later, my parents and sisters visited the Irish homestead in an extremely rural, teeny-tiny town of Cloughjordan in Tipperary County, Ireland. There was no expansive manor home in the area but there was a bar – exactly one – and not much more! Of course, my dad made a big deal of walking into the small bar and striding up to the bartender to ask whether there were any O’Carrolls about and where was the family home. The bartender, after a moment to ponder, responded, “I have heard tales of an O’Carroll in this town. It seems he’d killed the parish priest, quickly absconded, and was never heard from agin.” So, maybe my grandmother’s claim of grandeur was nothing more than a good Irish tale!
I can’t even start to explain how much I learned from my Grandma. She was always “proper” and insisted us kids carry on the dignity of the family name. That meant minding our manners at ALL times. To us, that meant having NO fun. She could be harsh. I can still hear her voice crying out, “ah, ah, ah, don’t do that!” There was definitely a time when I was somewhat afraid of Grandma, but her husband, Papa, more than made up for that. But to this day, I always remain conscious of the “right” thing to do in every situation. I still don’t want to disappoint. More importantly, though, Grandma was always one who held very high expectations for me. She MADE me learn self-confidence, whether by simply standing up straighter, always wearing proper clothes, and otherwise always being mindful of the appearance that I am confident. I’ll never forget her keeping up appearances the night my sister Pam and I drove Grandma to her apartment at Wilder Care Center one Christmas Eve. It was VERY slippery. As Pam was helping Grandma out of the passenger seat of the car, Grandma slipped - all the way under the car! Grandma must have been in her mid-90s at the time and the picture of Pam and me dragging Grandma out from under the car must have been quite the sight. Fortunately, she was not hurt. She got up, straightened herself, and proceeded to march into the front entrance as if nothing had ever happened. Pam and I couldn’t stop laughing all the way home!
Despite her harsh exterior, Grandma was wonderful and loving. As I mentioned, she was always reminding me of my potential. Sometimes her reasoning was merely due to the good Irish-Spanish-English-Scottish-Catholic heritage I was blessed with (the English-Scottish was from the Grayson [Gracen] side of the family). She also regularly cited the Grayson name that had traces way before the American Revolution. In Grandma’s mind, her progeny were just too good to fail. I also can’t deny that Grandma had a part in “arranging” my marriage. One Sunday I had accompanied Grandma to church. It was a one-block walk from our house. After mass, she said she wanted to talk to me about my girlfriend, Amy. As we started walking I asked Grandma what he wanted to talk about. She simply replied, “I approve.” I asked what she meant, she said, “and I’d like you to give her my engagement ring.” She explained that it was her mother’s ring and that she made my grandfather replace the sapphire with a diamond from Tiffany’s. Again, not sure of the veracity of the latter statement, but this offer actually provided the kickstart I needed to propose to my sweetheart.